Fear
According to Thom Rutledge :
"Fear takes many forms --- dread, worry, panic, anxiety, self-consciousness, superstition, negativity --- and manifests itself in many ways --- avoidance, procrastination, judgment, control, agitation, and perfectionism, to name a few. Fear is our constant companion. It haunts us day and night and prevents us from living to our potential. Whether we are afraid of the dark or of being alone, failure or commitment, public speaking or flying, fear dominates our lives, affecting nearly every decision we make. " 
I asked myself few days ago "what are your fears?"
dunno why i asked ... nothing really happened to provoke such a question ...
In answer, i found that what the future holds is wut i fear the most ... a little bit of a "cliché" answer, but if you look deeper into that answer you'll find that it's actually wutever "possibilities" future might hold that makes it worse than ur worst nightmare ...
I'm afraid of being alone ... i'm a single child with no siblings, unmarried .. still young yes alhamdullilah ... but my parents are getting old ... if they are gone - which is a fact no one can escape sooner or later - then i'm completely by myself ...
And I'm afraid of aging ... i see these dark spots that are increasing every day on my father's skin ... it just scares me ... i see the wrinkles invading my mother's face ... it just scares me ... wuts worse is that i'm afraid of their aging because i simply cannot/will not be able to handle it ... i'm emotionally and psychologically too fragile to see someone aging and needing me beside them ...
It came outta nowhere today that a friend of mine was telling me about her father who's showing symptoms of Alzheimer's and i was simply overwhelmed by scare at just the thought of it ... living to see ur parents forgetting how to eat or even how to use the toilet is more painfull than having them dead...
Am i too selfish to think like this? or is it normal to be scared of such things?
At the same time, i find myself totally OK with the idea of ME getting sick ... i can venture to say that i'm not afraid of this at all ... sometimes i think this is just my subconcious facing the fears listed above by finding a simple solution: may be if you get sick and die young, you won't have to go through all the above!! sometimes i think: "My God, i've got a real sick mentality!" ... other times, i sound more logical to myself than anything.
And then, may be i'm just having too much of a luxorious life ... Isn't it said that ppl who have less to worry about in their daily life make up something to worry about?
Certianly these fears of mine would sound ridiculous to someone who can hardly find food to support him for another day ... or someone who works like a machine day and night just to make enough money to support his family or get his children proper education ... or or or ... But then ... that makes these fears very "basic" in their nature which makes them infact the ULTIMATE fears a human can have ... Remove away all the daily needs that humans need to satisfy and whose shortage prevents them from thinking about these "basic" fears and then you'll get a pure, sophisticated, permenant emotion: FEAR!
Time can never stop, and so ppl can never stop agging ... !
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I love you, bunny.
Because I didn't understand emotions at all when I was young, a psychologist explained them to me. She said all our emotions are a combination of 4 basic feelings, and each one has a cause or 'meaning' and a need attached to it: Mad (Anger), Sad, Glad (Happiness), and Fear.
Mad means something is wrong and needs to be fixed or changed.
Sad means something is lost or missing and needs to be acquired or understood and accepted as gone.
Glad means something is good or comforting and needs to be shared with others.
Fear means there is some threat (physical or emotional) or there is something unknown and the need is for safety or information.
As you said, in your case, the fear is from not knowing what the future holds and is not from any true threat to your safety. You need information. Have you spoken to your parents about your fears?
What about volunteering to care for elderly or hospitalized people? Then you will see how you will perform in case your parents need you.
How about learning as much as you can about health and nutrition so your own aging process will be slower and more controlled? It will also help your parents to live healthier, and maybe not need your help as much.
There is nothing better than knowledge!!
Try it, you'll like it.
There is nothing to be afraid of.
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